I’m going to three weddings in two months. All my old buddies from high school are getting hitched. It is both strange and disconcerting to know that the same people I used to go TPing with, the same people I used to get in mud fights and bottle rocket fights with are now being turned into honest men by some pretty pretty women.
Jeremy got married this past Saturday in Selma, IN. His wife, Alanna was quite pretty and while none of us were at the wedding, the reception was an excellent chance to see get all of us lugs together. We’d not seen all of each other since Bo’s wedding almost two years before. We had this two-part bet; Next Man Down, and Last Man Standing. I won the Next Man Down part, splitting it with Phil, because we both picked Jeremy to be the next man husbanded. So each person had to give us ten bucks. I didn’t really collect mine, but someone gave me a ten anyway.
Now other people are asking me when I’m getting hitched. Thankfully I can at least say I’m going on dates from time to time. At least they can feel pleasantly surprised to some extent. Next weekend I’ve got to drive to Effingham, IL for my buddy Brian’s wedding. 7.5 hour drive!
I’ve only been to one wedding of a friend, albeit one of my best friends. It is a relief that the majority of my friends are not married; in fact, most of them are single. some of them hardly date. hmmmm.
The older women I work with gush that i am so young and many say don’t get married, based on their own travails.
So I don’t feel much pressure. The extended family hasn’t started to really bother me; they probably think I’m a lesbian.
my parents are still together, after 30 years, but all of their friends except one couple has gotten divorced. their friendships have sort of dissolved because they weren’t two couples any more.
many of the couples who are marrying now will end up divorced and then back in the single, dating pool but will be older and feel more desperate, perhaps. and they may feel alienated by their couple friends.
i guess there is no ideal situation.
i wonder what the statistics are on people who marry later in life–is there less chance that they divorce?
adam.….youve lost that lovin feelin
Lisa, as one who got married in his mid-40’s to a woman in her late 30’s, having bought a house and now planning on having kids (no more than 2.5!), I can say this: I looked at the issue of later marriages, and yes, those who get married later are less prone to divorce than those who get married in their 20’s. Not sure who put that one out, but there it is: take it for what it is worth. I know the pressure you feel, but I caved when *I* was damned good and ready, and not before; if my family didn’t like it, well, it was their tough bananas… 😉
I have really mixed feelings about the sudden onslaught of weddings amongst my friends. On the one hand, it’s a really exciting time in life with people getting married and buying homes and having babies…but, on the other hand, it makes feel pressure to get on with this whole process of adulthood and commit to some of those deeds, myself. And then there’s the guilt of not wanting to and not feeling that I have to…and of feeling like a failure because I don’t.